Over the years, and across the many domains in which I’ve worked, I’ve been blessed to have been exposed to many people who have achieved mastery.
There was a consistent quality they all possessed - humility This trait gave them access to what seemed to be the key to their mastery - they never, ever, ever, stopped learning.
That thirst for knowledge kept them open to being challenged and therefore willing to change. They would constantly read, train, and seek out perspectives from those younger and less experienced. This was always done with a genuine belief in maintaining a “beginner’s mind”.
It’s not about life or work hacks or some other tactical application, it starts with this core belief that we are all in a constant process of “becoming” - personally and professionally.
If you would like to dig further, I can’t recommend Michael Gervais' podcast, Finding Mastery, enough. It is interesting how consistently you see the same...
A coachee was having trouble with his decision-making speed as it was causing conflict with colleagues that moved faster.
On further questioning, he revealed his slowness was rooted in fear, not process (this is often the case). Most telling it didn’t translate into better outcomes, just more time.
I offered two things for him to work on - The 70% Rule and Filter Sets
In my book, Barn Raising for Business, I include a quote from Jeff Bezos: "Most decisions should probably be made with somewhere around 70% of the information you wish you had. If you wait for 90%, in most cases, you're probably being slow."
I then suggested he create a list of ten must haves (a “filter set”) in order for him to move forward on a project. If he reaches 7 out of the 10 he both knows he can move forward as well as areas that need to continue to be worked on to increase his confidence further.
What is your process for making decisions?
Several years ago, I went to a talk by Anita Moorjani, the author of Dying to Be Me. After reaching the point of organ failure brought on by cancer, she had a near-death experience and returned from the brink. Inexplicably, she was released from the hospital within weeks, completely cancer free. The doctors can’t explain what happened.
During her talk, she brought up a concept I had heard discussed before. She believes that decision-making, at its core, is a binary process.
You are choosing either fear or love.
And every time you choose love you move closer and closer to becoming the best version of yourself. And every time you choose fear, you move further away.
I bucked against this thought at first. It can’t be that simple!
And it should be the final filter that our decisions have to pass through.
In an organizational context, what if the last thing you thought about before you unleash a decision was love and not fear?
Too often, organizations are built on a...
We’ve all heard the expression “jack of all trades, master of none.” Expressed differently, there’s fierce debate as to whether you should strive to be a generalist or a specialist. Frankly, there are excellent arguments on either side.
Myself, I’m a polymath. That, of course, is just a fancy way of saying, “I do a lot of different stuff.” Though I must confess a particular fondness for a term that has fallen out of usage - Renaissance Man.
What I’ve been thinking about this week is if that’s actually true.
Is it possible to be a specialist in a passion instead of a function?
When I look back over my career, the common thread has always been a passion for helping people change. Whether it was shifting perspectives through telling stories as a filmmaker, helping men transition into single fatherhood as an author, or aiding organizations in embracing new and effective ways of solving problems.
To follow this passion, I’ve...
Though they're treated as obligatory, mission and vision statements seldom work. They may sound nice, but it's rare anyone is able to connect these often wordy and clichéd statements to their actual day-to-day work.
In this short whiteboard video, I explain how you can create something called a "Touchstone" - a clear, concise statement that sums up your reason for being in 7 words or less.
I had lunch several weeks ago at a well-known spot in an area of my city that I don’t normally frequent. An extremely popular lunch destination that often wins “Best Of” polls in local papers, this family-owned business has been there for almost 20 years and boasts an extremely loyal clientele.
Clearly, they are doing some things right to be able to still exist in the tight-margin world of restaurants. The food was pretty good.
And I am never going back there again.
From the moment I stepped in, I was surrounded by chaos. The cooks behind the line were tense and overwhelmed staring at handwritten order slips. Customers that were not regulars stood around looking confused, unsure of when and where to pay. The person at the cash had no idea who ordered what and would shout out the names of different dishes, which resulted in even more confusion as many people had ordered the same thing. There were dirty plates on many of the tables.